Hi, readers! In this Allyship Corner article, I'm going to talk about the aromantic and asexual spectrums. While I identify on the asexual spectrum, I am not an expert on this topic and I highly recommend that you follow up with your own research after reading this article! I'll start by giving you a brief description of each identity. Aromantic, or aro for short, describes someone who experiences little to no romantic attraction. Asexual, or ace for short, describes someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction.
It is important to note that romantic relationships are not necessary for everyone. Those who do not desire them can lead equally happy and fulfilled lives while getting the love they need from platonic relationships, like family and friends. The same applies to asexual folks and sex. Another thing to note about aromanticism and asexuality is that they are not disorders or choices. Like all the other identities, they are a part of who you are and do not come from upbringing or past experiences. Some believe that it is just about not having 'met the right person yet'. This type of assumption is untrue and harmful to the community as it pushes to invalidate the identities. Additionally, those who are aromantic may still have romantic relationships and those who are asexual may still have sexual relationships.
Another important thing to remember is that not all aromantic people are asexual. Similarly, not all asexual people are aromantic. Ace folks often experience romantic attraction while folks who identify as aro can still experience sexual attraction. There can also be an overlap where someone identifies as both aromantic and asexual. They may use the shortened labels aroace or acearo.
The last important point I'd like to bring up is that both identities are spectrums. Aromantic, asexual, and aroace folks can identify anywhere on those spectrums. They can also have other romantic and sexual identities.
A couple of examples of identities on the aromantic and asexual spectrums are demisexual/demiromantic and aroflux/aceflux. Demisexual and demiromantic describe folks who only feel romantic or sexual attraction to those that they have already formed a close emotional bond with. Aroflux and aceflux describe folks whose aromanticism or asexuality is fluid and moves along the spectrum.
That's all from me! As I mentioned earlier, I encourage you to do your own research to understand more about these beautiful identities! Doing your own research and being open to learning is an important part of being a good ally. Remember not to assume, to ask if you are unsure, and to be open to learning more!